I think Bollywood songs are the main culprit for India being known as a sentimental nation and rightly so. Bollywood songs provide words to feelings which would have been better dealt-with from the subconscious .They bring feelings into the realm of the consciousness thereby aggravating the trouble .I have seen far too many people listening to senti songs after a not so good emotional encounter (read reality bite) .and whats infinitely worse is the excuse they offer ,that in "this mood" they want to hear such songs only .Cant help mentioning the truck drivers who would play songs announcing how their love ditched them with killer lines like "uski doli uth rahi thi ,mera janaza nikal raha tha" Come on , get a life.
By expresing our feelings through songs we are only distorting our view of the event .Bollywoods songs are just statistical "mode" of feelings, more so the romantic ones . Say for example "kahin to hogi vo duniya jahan tu mere pass hai ". i mean who wouldn't empathize to such a line when 99% of people are not with the person they wanted and the remaining 1 % are finding out that the person they so desperately desired is nothing but human with all the characteristic imperfections that didn't seem to matter earlier. I personally would go to the extent of disapproval to discussing sentimental problems with "close " friends because it only shuffles the priorities in your mind (not to forget it adds an extra factor to worry about of having to put a face in front of the person you are discussing). I didn't say that we bottle up all problems and choke ourselves with frustration .All i m trying to say is that we should "objectify " the problem before discussing to another person, we should be clear about what is to be done unconditionally and what remains variable and its still better to know the exhaustive set of values the variable can take i.e. the possible line of actions
I personally have made the same mistake innumerable times,discussing "live" problems, may be out of sheer need of sympathy :).Still do ;) but i would like to think i deal with them better now :)
By expresing our feelings through songs we are only distorting our view of the event .Bollywoods songs are just statistical "mode" of feelings, more so the romantic ones . Say for example "kahin to hogi vo duniya jahan tu mere pass hai ". i mean who wouldn't empathize to such a line when 99% of people are not with the person they wanted and the remaining 1 % are finding out that the person they so desperately desired is nothing but human with all the characteristic imperfections that didn't seem to matter earlier. I personally would go to the extent of disapproval to discussing sentimental problems with "close " friends because it only shuffles the priorities in your mind (not to forget it adds an extra factor to worry about of having to put a face in front of the person you are discussing). I didn't say that we bottle up all problems and choke ourselves with frustration .All i m trying to say is that we should "objectify " the problem before discussing to another person, we should be clear about what is to be done unconditionally and what remains variable and its still better to know the exhaustive set of values the variable can take i.e. the possible line of actions
I personally have made the same mistake innumerable times,discussing "live" problems, may be out of sheer need of sympathy :).Still do ;) but i would like to think i deal with them better now :)
bhai tune to bollywood ke gaano and feeling ki dhajjiyan uda di.. :P
ReplyDeletenyway mast likha hai :)
love the last line...wokring on it for a long time ...but still nothing has changed...i think a lot but still say what comes first to me mind...whether its girls or guys whether juniors or seniors...the problem happens when i do speak my mind clearly to my boss(he gets ...)
ReplyDeleteBollywood songs...love them ...remember the soothing effect they give you ...when you don't have people to talk to and share how you feel.. not only that they give you a way sometimes to think for a different path...so not just emotionally but some songs give you a real picture about the society we live in and what is required to get in well....
oh man..i should start writing my own blog now ..i have a lot of things to write ..i guess...
@ vijay thanks man. but i have nothing against bollywood songs , i am myself a big fan .
ReplyDelete@ manish. i agree they comfort you when lonely and sometimes even inspire you .the aspect i hate is when they become central part of your thought process and prevent you from thinking clearly and factually.
ReplyDelete@manish and do start your blog . i will be looking forward to that.
ReplyDeleteMusic has universal appeal, moving us at all levels of our being: body, mind and spirit. Rather than "aggravating the trouble" and bringing stress it reduces stress and therefore acts as a stressbuster
ReplyDelete@ mrinal. sure it does but i was talking of the situation when it distorts our view of the event .since we tend to associate with the lyrics of the song we tend to distort facts(what actually happened) to suit theories (what we want to believe ) :)
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